This week, I am participating in the “5 Days of… Summer Series” with the wonderful ladies at the iHomeschool Network.
As I worked on this Mother-Daughter post, it dawned on me that a lot of my parenting comes from filtering out the special moments I had with my own parents and trying to recreate them for my children with the consistency that I did not have because my parents were divorced.
I am not a crafty person AT ALL. I am not a very good housekeeper either – at least not as good as I would like to be. However, I do work on crafts with my daughter. Not because I do a good job, but because it is an opportunity for us to share something. My mother taught me to knit and crochet. A few weeks before my father picked me up at school without her consent, she taught me the basic stitches. I made little 2 inch by 2 inch squares of knitting, purling, single crochet and double crochet stitches and mounted them on little index cards. I was so proud of my work.
Unfortunately, that was the extent of what she was able to teach me. I spent the next year and a half with my father. When I returned to live with my mother, she was too busy trying to make ends meet to resume our lessons. I think that feeling of pride and connection that I had with my mother fuels my desire to be the one to teach my daughter how to keep a home and how to crochet.
So far, we’ve developed our crochet skills together. We’ve recently learned how to scrapbook and are making a scrapbook of her first 10 years. My daughter loves this! As we look through baby and toddler pictures, I tell her what she was like and what our life was like when she was younger. She was such a sweet baby and I love reminder her of it. We’ve learned to cook several new vegetables and how to paint a room. It is interesting what topics come up for discussion when you are working together with your hands. We’ve discussed everything from dating/courtship to saving money and eschewing debt.
Beyond just the bond that working and talking together creates, you need to realized that just like homemaking is a huge part of your life, it is going to be a huge part of your daughter’s life. It doesn’t matter what the psychologists say. Women still carry the babies in the womb. The day men start doing that, we can begin to discuss gender neutrality. So, you can be a huge blessing to your daughter by giving her skills she will need. You will make her path in life smoother if you give as much attention to her ability to cook, clean and nurture children as you do to her SAT scores.
5 Days of Homesteading
from Connie at Smockity Frocks
5 Days of Decluttering
from Lisa at Chaos Appreciation
5 Days of Homeschooling for the Busy Family
from Jenilee at Our Goodwin Journey
5 Days of Homeschooling Pre-K
from Lauren at Mama’s Learning Corner
5 Days of Homeschooling in the Military
from Aadel at These Temporary Tents
5 Days of Kindle in the Classroom
from Jodi at Granola Mom 4 God
5 Days of Return of the Routine
from Tricia at Hodge Podge
5 Days of Homeschooling a Special Needs Child
from LaToya at Christian Momma
5 Days of Crafts
from Rebecca at Mom’s Mustard Seeds
5 Days of Oven-Free Dinners
from Tabitha at Meet Penny
5 Days of Freezer Cooking
from Stacie at Motherhood on a Dime
5 Days of Family Games
from Christine at Fruit in Season
5 Days of Camping Tips
from Jenny at Planner Perfect
5 Days of Educational Apps
from Kim at Not Consumed
5 Days of Real-World Math
from Joan at Our School at Home
5 Days of Summer Un-School
from Jamie at Unlikely Homeschool
5 Days of Using Your Slow Cooker
from Sarah at Sidetracked Sarah
5 Days of Summer Survival
from Susann at Momma Hopper
5 Days of Creative Co-op Classes
from Ami at Walking by the Way